Hi, I'm Alex Conway 🪩

You won't spend the first session explaining which parts of it matter to you and which don't.

Most of what you'll bring here isn't about kink at all. It's relationships, boundaries, family, work, the weight you've been carrying a while. Kink is usually just the part you've had to explain, or leave out, everywhere else.

Some things don't respond to understanding them better. You already know where it came from, and a certain tone of voice still puts you right back there. That's a memory the brain never finished filing, and it needs a different kind of work than talking. EMDR is the one I use for it, and I trained through an EMDRIA-approved program. The rest of my work draws on positive psychology, the research on what actually makes a life worth living.

Before private practice: crisis counseling at The Trevor Project and LGBTQ+ civil-rights advocacy work with the ACLU of Michigan. I wrote a book about self-construction in Eastern and Western psychology.

I work with a small number of clients, so there's room in my week to think about yours between sessions, and real access when a week goes sideways.

Mostly, though, I'm here so you don't have to explain yourself before you can be helped.